tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81857444702839398862024-03-13T20:12:35.178-07:00*anticipate: to look forward toUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger168125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-29891752055335635132014-07-12T10:05:00.004-07:002014-07-12T10:05:42.400-07:00I Am Writing Over In A New Place Now... <br />
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I am at: <a href="http://www.theoffenseofjoy.com./">www.theoffenseofjoy.com.</a><br />
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I have missed you and would love you to come stop by and visit in my new space.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-39242097012530288432012-08-23T15:45:00.000-07:002012-08-23T15:45:58.424-07:00What I Said <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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My 40th Birthday Toast </div>
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Because of a variety of circumstances I began this decade in deeper pain and exhaustion than I ever thought I could survive. And then I went on to experience a sudden near-death for my son and me; a week long coma; a decade of very serious health problems for my daughter; the darkest economic struggles I have ever faced and a variety of situations that were personally very painful.<br />
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To say this last decade (12.5 years really) was difficult is a total understatement. I hit rock-bottom. I went through days where I completely and totally lost sight of my self in the fog and fight for survival.
There were bright spots: I lost over 60 lbs (something I am only just now realizing was really, very strong ) including the 40 lbs I gained in 10 minutes (crazy!) during the crisis of Luke's birth.<br />
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I held onto my marriage. I loved my kids. And I reached out to friends.
When over and over and over again my impulse was to hide, feel shame, withdraw, or even lie about the quality of all this pain: <i>I didn't.</i> I didn't give up. I fought for the truth. I believed in healing. I waited for hope. And, also, - finally - I learned what it means to let go. To trust.<br />
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And I have learned a lot. I learned to serve other people's dreams, totally and completely, and to make them my own. I learned the meaning of grace and patience - for my self and as a mother. I learned how to de-fang the jaws of comparison. I learned I was a great teacher. I learned the power of touch and nurturing (it's so powerful!) I learned about the healing of just sitting and reading together on a couch. I learned what peace in a home feels like. And I learned the laughter from a puppy's unconditional love in a family. (It's no small thing!)<br />
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Most profoundly in my journey I learned about the incredible power of all-out vulnerability with no other motivation than to own my story & be who I really am. To quote a favourite author it really is "the birthplace of courage, connection and creativity."<br />
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I also learned how transformative it is to choose joy and to see beauty amidst imperfection. That is vulnerability in action. And for me, nothing applies those two things more than choosing to be in my body and choosing deep friendships. Both of those things delineate my life's journey, and both of those gifts have become my greatest enjoyment throughout my years.<br />
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Running, being in water, hiking in mountains, going for a walk - some days even just getting out of bed - and a myriad ways of reaching out to other women - are the acts of vulnerability for me. They are my way of saying: I am still here! I still feel (thank God) and I have not lost my self. I want to live this beautiful life. My physical activity out of doors and my connections with my friends have become the definition, and have drawn the contours, of who I am. And because of that I cannot thank you - each of you - enough for being a part of my journey.<br />
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I know this journey of mine is no where near over. But I am beginning to see more and more jewels beneath the rock bottom I'd hit. And, truthfully, I am not finding those gems in looking back. I had a epiphany when I read a line in a Mary Oliver poem at the beginning of this year. She said<i> "...the answer [is] simply to rise in joyfulness all of [our] days."</i> I find the treasures in my journey when I lace on, get up, and reach out each new morning. I find them in being present in the gift of each day and every year.<br />
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Every day ten years ago that I found the strength, the nerve even, to run the 1.3 miles around Lake Louise; every time I found the courage to push the double stroller with two babies through the Columbia neighbourhood, every Saturday that I found the companionship in asking girlfriends to join me trailrunning on Northlake; every steep hill I have gasped up on Chandler and on Barkley; every 5am alarm that I've set, every time I walked into a group and said: "I love to run, actually" - I was choosing a joy deeper than I even understood. I was choosing to be myself.<br />
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And for every friend that has walked - or run - beside me, and believed in me, I am more me than I would've been without you.
I have so been looking forward to turning forty. And as I've been stretching out my limbs in this new decade I have found my self feeling real joy about being here. I like being this age. It feels like a victory - and it feels like anticipation. I'm excited about what is to come.
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One of the reasons I wanted to have this party was to have a chance to thank each of you for the immense gift of your friendships & for your help in authoring my story. Both its details & its outcome. Thank you for being the sweetest of my birthday gifts. Thank you for bearing witness to my victories and for being so full of grace and patience for my weaknesses. I can not do life without my girlfriends, nor do I ever want to. Thank you, each of you, for being my fortieth birthday gifts.<br />
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So today, for my fortieth birthday, I want to toast to the absolute joy of friendship, to the power vulnerability and to the anticipation of what is to come. I want to raise my glass to life! Thank you for celebrating all its joys - and surviving all the hard parts - with me!<br />
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one of my favourite parts of a party</div>
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a special photo from forty years ago</div>
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Kezi helped with the prettiest details</div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-85459348446586777012012-03-30T07:39:00.003-07:002012-03-30T21:39:18.224-07:00A Family Update<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ApnTf26IMAI/T3XI1iZc4WI/AAAAAAAAB4M/XtU75CSdmA4/s1600/Narnia+hike+canvas+2+edit+.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="480" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ApnTf26IMAI/T3XI1iZc4WI/AAAAAAAAB4M/XtU75CSdmA4/s640/Narnia+hike+canvas+2+edit+.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><div style="text-align: center;"><i>This is what I've been doing lately - lots of hiking, lots of reading, lots of outdoor time with these two people who seem determined to grow up really fast. </i></div><br />
My husband recently posted a little family update <a href="http://thethompsonstory.wordpress.com/2012/03/30/an-update-from-the-thompsons-seven-years/">here</a>. Lots of wishes for a beautiful and happy Easter this next week to you!<br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><i>And P.S. </i></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><i>I looooooooove </i><a href="http://milemarkers.runnersworld.com/2012/03/joy-first/"><i>this post. </i></a><i> She always says it best. </i></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><i>That is what my Lenten practice has been this year - putting joy first. </i></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-50930011737199437022012-01-19T13:42:00.000-08:002012-01-19T17:14:02.620-08:00Longing<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-iHe4EA_QOAg/Txi_tjdVsJI/AAAAAAAABwc/O-Rpx_cuTwI/s1600/Narbia+1+-+edit.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-iHe4EA_QOAg/Txi_tjdVsJI/AAAAAAAABwc/O-Rpx_cuTwI/s640/Narbia+1+-+edit.jpg" width="480" /></a></div><br />
The ache between sorrow and longing is a razor's edge of sameness. We grieve what is not and in the same breath long for what could be.<br />
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What is it that you enjoy and long for? I am coming to a solid place in my own personal theology that that is where God meets with me. Yes, we've all heard of Eric Liddell's famous and <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0082158/quotes">beautiful quote</a>: "When I run I feel His pleasure." We've heard the succinct beauty of the <a href="http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC.html">Westminster catechism</a>: "The chief end of man is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever." We've heard <a href="http://www.desiringgod.org/resource-library/articles/we-want-you-to-be-a-christian-hedonist">modern day theologians explain</a> that God is most glorified when we are most satisfied in Him - and yes, yes, yes - I believe and love each of these truths. I have been rescued and built up by <a href="http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/27405.Brennan_Manning">Manning's</a> books like the Ragamuffin Gospel and Nouwen's teachings on the love of the waiting Father. I have stood naked before grace and I have - <a href="http://www.amazon.com/All-Grace-Ragamuffin-Brennan-Manning/dp/1434764184/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1326739169&sr=1-1">and am</a> - learning to let it be the only thing that clothes me.<br />
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But what does that look like in our lives? In our bodies? In our hearts and in our longings?<br />
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I am starting to believe it's our bodies and senses that the Holy Spirit often uses to show us the way. What brings you alive? What makes your heart beat faster and gives you that ache that makes you wish you were doing it, not reading about others doing it? What are you willing to endure pain and pressure for?<br />
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What reeks of enjoyment for you? What makes you sparkle and suffer all at the same time and makes others want to come do it with you?<br />
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Wheelchair bound, sick-bed bound, bound by the constraints of little kids and their needs-induced sleep deprivation - I know what I dreamed of year after year. I read book after book after book about hiking steep mountains and running mountain trails. I devoured and treasured book after book and touched the type written words and played with them in my head. I loved the words as much as the beauty they sang about and captivated me with.<br />
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What does your body dream of? Not what is it capable of now, but what speaks to its core?<br />
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That may be your place of worship - and when consecrated to the Great Enjoyer - maybe that is what you were born to do.<br />
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We were asked on Sunday at church: What does it mean to you to be a follower of Jesus? We sit around tables for our gatherings and we turned to our table-mates to share and discuss. I could only think of the words someone told me a long time ago: Your faith is as deep and real as the last time you let Jesus love you.<br />
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Yes, there are seasons of dying to this fulfillment. Yes, there are seasons of it dying altogether for the sacrifice and sake of loving others. But our bodies were made to crave and move and hunger and enjoy - and what if that is all a patterning to teach us the longing and fulfillment of worship as an activity?<br />
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I have a friend who once sat at our dining room table and described skin diving (no air tank) deep under the waters around our Pacific Northwest islands. He spoke reverently of the ocean life and beauty he saw at 180 feet below water. As he talked his eyes spontaneously filled with tears. "That is my church," he said. "It is impossible not to have worship yanked out of you surrounded by that type of wonder."<br />
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Our dining room table hummed with a sacred silence as we all stopped and felt his words. My eyes filled with tears, too, as my heart ached. The inevitable question in the room was what activity breathes with that level of worship for you?Unknownnoreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-28390218600444794732012-01-16T09:53:00.000-08:002012-01-16T09:53:37.747-08:00On Being Broken By The List - Part Two<div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-kRrMkQlR3LE/TxRj9VyFAFI/AAAAAAAABsg/ninyCWGlFdQ/s1600/chair+cover+NY+post+2012.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-kRrMkQlR3LE/TxRj9VyFAFI/AAAAAAAABsg/ninyCWGlFdQ/s640/chair+cover+NY+post+2012.JPG" width="640" /></a></div><br />
Continued from <a href="http://kindbirds.blogspot.com/2012/01/on-being-broken-by-list-part-one.html">Part One</a><br />
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A few years ago a friend gave me a beautiful framed picture of an empty bench in front of a wall of peeling paint colours that I love. With it they gave me a scripture about rest and stillness. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">Somewhere deep inside me I felt rebuked? exposed? annoyed? known? mad? I packed the photo away later knowing, regardless, that at the very least it made me frustrated. Who could be that still, I genuinely wondered as my toddlers ran around me in circles, with so much to do? Sleep was elusive. Let alone rest.</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
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</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">I was pretty much flabbergasted. It sounded too good to be true. After all this time?! It sounded so weightless and refreshing and all sorts of wonderful to begin my days that way. I couldn't say yes fast enough! So for awhile now I have been doing just that. I have a stack of outdoor clothes next to my bed and my first steps on many recent mornings have been outdoors with Jesus having a date. On the tired mornings I turn to Him even in my jammies but with my whole heart. I've listened, I've whispered and I've been embraced by the peace of silence and beauty and quiet time.<br />
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Being with Him is not new for me. Being able to let go of everything else as I do, is. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">And I've been loved. And the heaviness of the list is lightening. It hasn't been altogether abandoned - far from it. If anything it's felt more important than ever. But it hasn't been like gritting my teeth and setting my jaw and choosing to do the right thing from steely determination. It has felt different. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">During this time I have been thinking a lot about motivation and obedience in how we care for ourselves, our families, and our bodies especially, and this morning the thought came to me:</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><div style="text-align: center;"><i>The best caretakers are not stewards and obeyers. They are lovers and worshippers. </i></div></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">My recent obedience has been coming from an entirely different nexus. A place where I feel beautified and where I can love back and adore. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">So what happened? I absolutely love goals and plans and checklists. I love resolutions and new beginnings. But I think God has been using this list to expose me - finally - to my inability, really, to do anything a part from Him. I've never known fully what that meant until now. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">I think He's wanted, so kindly, to give me<i> rest.</i> To show me His capacity, not mine. I've been wondering what if all of our new years' resolutions and goals all helped us realize what Paul's conclusion was?:</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><blockquote class="tr_bq">"Those who think they can do it on their own end up obsessed with measuring their own moral muscle but never get around to exercising it in real life. Those who trust God's action in them find that God's Spirit is in them—living and breathing God! Obsession with self in these matters is a dead end; attention to God leads us out into the open, into a spacious, free life."</blockquote></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">This New Year's I am asking myself a new question - how is God wanting to use my list to show off His commitment to me and love for me? To expose His power at work in me, that really is what gets any job done. To reveal how He is leading me into a spacious, free life - <a href="http://kindbirds.blogspot.com/2011/11/options.html">a wide open field</a>? How is He using my very own longings to show me He can fulfill them? Because, finally, I have come to the end of my efforts. I really have. And I believe with all my heart that somewhere in here is rest. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">I am celebrating that. </div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-80480164691025062872012-01-12T14:53:00.000-08:002012-01-12T14:53:16.505-08:00On Being Broken By The List - Part One<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-FvuCx1EpZQY/Tw9ikmu91lI/AAAAAAAABsU/tiI8rNl_zas/s1600/cleaning+NY+post+2012.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-FvuCx1EpZQY/Tw9ikmu91lI/AAAAAAAABsU/tiI8rNl_zas/s640/cleaning+NY+post+2012.JPG" width="640" /></a></div><br />
I have to couch this post by saying there is some amount of grieving happening in my home right now. It's okay, it's even a good and beautiful thing to be able to do that - but it is what it is: a lot of sorrow and sadness. It's within that context that I am trying to bring words to what I am expressing below.<br />
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Also, a lot of the sorrow that we are facing I have carried for a long time. I have fought for and rallied and crusaded for certain things to happen and they finally are. I'm not saying that was right to do or wrong to do. But I have done it and it has had - there is no doubt - a great impact on my body and my health. For example one thing that has suffered tremendously has been my sleep.<br />
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So, again, in that context for the last number years I have felt an emphasis inside me to prioritize about eight to ten things in my life. Simple things that I kept sensing I should make top priority in my life. Things to do with caring for my body, caring for my family and how I use my time.<br />
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But after trying to keep this relatively simple list now for quite a few years (and writing it in new and pretty ways every new year in my journals) I had come to refer to it as my screwed-up-insanely-frustrating-list-of-personal-awful-failures.<br />
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I have come to really, <i>really</i> not like this list.<br />
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I have chosen every choice I could. Abdicated, let go, wrestled and it's taken me all these years, but I had started to see this list as a mirror. Not of who I am (I'd like that) but of all the things I am <i>not</i> but long to be. The list has been a call to obedience, I know that deeply. And as I've tried and tried to do just that, it's really become much more of an exposure.<br />
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I've asked as I've prayed - almost daily - to be let off the hook. But time and again I look up from pleading my case and there is that list, right there in front of me, and a whisper, again, to pursue it.<br />
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Why?<br />
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Besides the fact that everything on this list is healthy, good for me and a gift to myself and those I love - it's also become a measuring stick by bullet points. It displays pretty finely all the important ways I don't meet up. And the fact that I value these things so deeply, only serves to do so more. It's a combination of expectations having me by the jugular, and Jesus having me by the hand. I'm forced to admit I can't and He keeps saying I can.<br />
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That, I promise you, does not feel great.<br />
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It's confusing, too! I am a pretty dedicated person. I lost over 65 post-pregnancies pounds when I set my mind to it. I know how to run double digits through pain. I have been sick for seven years unable to walk unassisted and looking at a grim future when I was in my twenties. I've survived a coma, post-partum depression and trauma - but why, really, were these ten simple things continually bringing me to my knees?<br />
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I take a lot of comfort in these words:<br />
<blockquote class="tr_bq">"What I don't understand about myself ," Paul writes, "is that I decide one way, but then I act another, doing things I absolutely despise. [I wonder what his list was?] So if I can't be trusted to figure out what is best for myself and then do it, it becomes obvious that God's command is necessary.</blockquote><blockquote class="tr_bq">But I need something more! For if I know the law but still can't keep it, and if the power of sin within me keeps sabotaging my best intentions, I obviously need help! I realize that I don't have what it takes. I can will it, but I can't do it. I decide to do good, but I don't really do it; I decide not to do bad, but then I do it anyway. My decisions, such as they are, don't result in actions. Something has gone wrong deep within me and gets the better of me every time.</blockquote><blockquote class="tr_bq">It happens so regularly that it's predictable." (from Romans chapter seven)</blockquote>It seems relevant right now as everyone has been making lists and coming up with words for the new year. (Both of which are practices I actually really love.) Because I think we all have lists inside of us. Some are part longing, part obedience. Some are one or the other. But my question becomes are we just destined to wrestle with them? Why do we sometimes conquer and sometimes break? Are we simply human and that's part of the deal? Do some things just stay insurmountable? And if so, how on earth do we keep going? <i>It's exhausting.</i><br />
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One of my greatest epiphanies about my list came when I heard God whisper something truly shocking to me about it. "You know," He mentioned, "this list is actually all things <i>you</i> <i>want.</i> It's your heart."<br />
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That hit home.<br />
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I have fought hard for these things. Reorganized and changed my whole life to be committed to this. But this list - more than anything else in my life - has made me feel empty and broken. It has exposed me as incapable. It reminds me I am - at my deepest level and will - personally powerless. My list, my new year's word, my goals, my plans - my very own longings - have proven over and over again, day after day, that I am weak.<br />
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- To Be Continued -Unknownnoreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-81546487488213687672012-01-11T19:48:00.000-08:002012-01-11T19:48:16.089-08:00Forty ThingsI have been working for weeks on a New Year's post about the resolutions I have been making - the same ones for the past 3 - 4 years. It has been a pretty raw and current process and I'm sitting with it for it a bit until it's ready. In the meantime I needed some happy thoughts, so I have been making a list of my forty favourite (some very frivolous) things.<br />
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And I counted and realized I turn forty in 210 days. Do you think there is any way to incorporate all of these things into celebrating my birthday? : ) I <i>love</i> milestones and I <i>love</i> celebrations...<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-WtgHtPTDo0I/Tw5SZA12QwI/AAAAAAAABsE/SjmQGyNu7xA/s1600/Emma+and+I+2012.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-WtgHtPTDo0I/Tw5SZA12QwI/AAAAAAAABsE/SjmQGyNu7xA/s400/Emma+and+I+2012.JPG" width="400" /></a></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>My Forty Favourite Things</b></span></div><ol><li>running on pretty trails </li>
<li>hiking in beautiful and breathtaking places</li>
<li>running goals (and meeting them!)</li>
<li>water - swimming in lakes when it's hot and going to the lake with my kids with picnics and swimming suits</li>
<li>reading great books and having a stack of them waiting (that to me is decadence!)</li>
<li>having meaningful time alone</li>
<li>pretty journals and collaging in them</li>
<li>creating art with mixed media</li>
<li>shopping in pretty places and finding great deals </li>
<li>researching and making plans for the future; ideas, dreaming of possibilities (in a pretty window-ish seat)</li>
<li>beautifying my home spaces (especially with fabrics, art and colour)</li>
<li>encouraging and inspiring people</li>
<li>writing and crafting with words (and quotes - I love quotes!)</li>
<li>gratitude</li>
<li>colourful, sparkly and elegant jewelry</li>
<li>red shoes. fun dresses. dark jeans.</li>
<li>deep, restorative sleep (and cozy blankets)</li>
<li>delicious food</li>
<li>fabulous dates away with my husband (and getting dressed up fancy for them)</li>
<li>reading great books to my kids</li>
<li>pretty water bottles</li>
<li>great conversations with small groups of friends - dinner parties!</li>
<li>getting my hair done</li>
<li>free makeovers at the MAC counter and getting new pretty makeup</li>
<li>cooking with my husband</li>
<li>sushi</li>
<li>massages and whole days of quiet</li>
<li>active vacations (and roadtrips) with my husband and kids in beautiful places (that to me is rest)</li>
<li>not traveling, not talking on the phone, not big parties, not driving - and being home (<i>I love home</i>)</li>
<li>sunshine (and icy drinks, cute sunglasses, big floppy sunhats and a new sundress... for the record when I read this list to my kids and read this one, my son said: "That is awesomeness.")</li>
<li>writing cards that bless people</li>
<li>old movies from the 40's, 50's and 60's and watching them with my Clark</li>
<li>big, fun, patterned mugs full of a hot drink in the morning (but not coffee)</li>
<li>making lists (and checking them off!)</li>
<li>happy music</li>
<li>photographs & taking them</li>
<li>vintage art posters</li>
<li>flowers: gerbers, tulips, hyacinths, hydrangeas, sunflowers, daisies (no greens)</li>
<li>dutch licorice </li>
<li>dates with God and hearing from Him</li>
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</div><div><div style="text-align: center;">And honourable favourite mentions going into the next ten:</div></div><div><ol><li>my puppy Emma </li>
<li>running past Christmas lights on icy evenings</li>
<li>learning to knit more than a scarf with delicious yarns</li>
<li>reading more Mary Oliver, Madeleine L'Engle and Kristin Armstrong (she'd have to write more)</li>
<li>hiking the Appalachian trail, in all the big national parks and the Milford Sound on the south island (New Zealand) with my kids and husband</li>
<li>kayaking a lot with my husband & learning to SUP (stand up paddle board)</li>
<li>being debt free and creating good savings</li>
<li>writing a book or ten</li>
<li>staying a runner all my life</li>
<li>and the big dream for this year: finding a way to spend the summer with my kids and husband in a cabin on the water on the San Juan Islands just us four (I know - it's a dream! But so is the whole list.)</li>
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<div style="text-align: center;">"Nothing is more difficult, and therefore more precious, than to be able to decide." </div><div style="text-align: center;">~ Napoleon Bonaparte</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-61584176203308615602011-12-29T18:26:00.000-08:002011-12-29T18:29:14.517-08:00A Canvas And A Love LetterI am <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Every-Body-Matters-Strengthening-Strengthen/dp/0310290813/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1325095723&sr=8-1">reading a book</a> I have waited for for many years. It's the book I'd like to write, actually, and I may still someday. But for now I am reading another person's take on it, and, to put it mildly, I am cheering and challenged as I read. (And I'm only about half way in.)<br />
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Nothing (besides my loved ones) captures what I am passionate about more then our relationships to and with our bodies. My journey proves, though, that this is an interest that comes from longing to be whole myself, not necessarily from victory or strength.<br />
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Under great stress, my relationship with my body is still the greatest tattle-tale on how I am doing spiritually. Cold sores, sugar addiction, insomnia... they all speak loudly when my heart is struggling, my questions are big and I am keeping quiet.<br />
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Part of this road is also what I am learning about grace and God's lavish and unearned kindness. As someone who grapples for any control in a world that breaks my heart daily, my journey in all this is a mix of choice and redemption, obedience and undeserved gifts.<br />
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I think our bodies are meant to be a canvas. Whether in brokenness or valour they will one way or another tell a story about who God is. From the intricacies of our cells and double helix, to the rosy hue our cheeks take on when in fresh air, to the delicacy and fineness so easily hurt - we are made in the image of magnificence and we worship Him when we enjoy that.<br />
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How we treat our bodies, our canvas, I think then could be described as our love letter back to Him. Our responses born from understanding His character and goodness, His sovereignty and care. Whether we are suffering or celebrating - how we relate to food, sleep, water, sex, affection and enjoyment all sing out what we believe about Him. And what we believe He feels <i>about us.</i><br />
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It's a palette of dark and light colours - and I still don't understand it all, nor do I live the parts I do believe consistently. But it's something I spend a lot of time thinking and asking questions about.<br />
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As someone with a history of an eating disorder I also am immediately disqualified as any sort of expert on this subject. As someone who has spent years struggling with depression and health issues, I approach this from a place of needing compassion and zero dogma. As someone who loves to run but will never be "naturally gifted" at running, I am immediately eliminated as fitness savvy in any way. As someone who still eats for comfort and control, as someone who still has habits I'd much rather hide than analyze, I have no desire to write about any of this from a place of preaching. But I do want to explore more about it from a position of hope, curiosity and enjoyment.<br />
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I honestly believe with all my heart that our bodies are meant to give us revelation. And I'm fascinated by that. I believe there are keys in how we relate to our bodies that are keys to things on a far grander scale. I have a hunch that the way we view our bodies, and how we care for them, are opportunities to walk into a love story and relationship, a way of living and connection, that we are made to hunger for and crave - and ultimately be fulfilled in.<br />
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I like how Gary Thomas said it in his book <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Every-Body-Matters-Strengthening-Strengthen/dp/0310290813/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1325210948&sr=8-1">Every Body Matters</a>: "In the end, I found that physical fitness offered to God, surrendered to God, pursued in cooperation with God, has enormous spiritual, emotional and physical benefits. It is not an easy battle, but I have found it to be one well worth fighting - even though I know it is a battle I will fight, with varying degrees of success, for the rest of my life."<br />
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For many years I have wanted to write more about this. This is the year I think I will.<br />
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</span> </i></b></div><div style="text-align: center;"><b><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">an·tic·i·pate</span></i></b><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> [an-tis-uh-peyt]</span></i></div><div style="text-align: center;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
</span> </i></div><div style="text-align: center;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">1. to realize beforehand; foretaste or foresee: to anticipate pleasure.</span></i></div><div style="text-align: center;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">2. to expect; look forward to; be sure of: to anticipate a favorable decision.</span></i></div><div style="text-align: center;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">3. to perform (an action) before another has had time to act.</span></i></div><div style="text-align: center;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">4. to answer (a question), obey (a command), or satisfy (a request) before it is made: He anticipated each of my orders.</span></i></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I've been processing with a couple close friends what I have written about in the last couple posts. As I drove away from a time with one of them, I felt God whisper something new to me. I heard Him say: "Misha, you have learned how to choose joy - and that is good. You look for beauty, you focus on it and that has been right. But now I want you to anticipate goodness. My goodness. I want you to live life anticipating My goodness."</span><br />
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</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">As I tried to articulate the difference of what this means to me, to my husband, I found myself explaining: anticipation is the opposite of protecting my heart. Choosing joy can happen even in the midst of a lot of pain. It's an emphasis of focus not feeling. But anticipation doesn't allow for focus - because you can't see what's coming yet. It's hope, it's excited feelings - but it's sightless. It doesn't allow me to live visually into the future.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Instead it forces me to live from my heart.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">And not to protect it. </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Another friend emailed me and said something that I think is profound, too. She wrote about how she has been struggling to define hope and realized (amidst some unimaginable heart-ache) that hope is gratitude. I am learning this, too. Gratitude, I think, puts legs under a certain way of seeing things. It's the means to applying anticipation. To living it and walking it out.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I've also been thinking about how anticipation is a lot like the role of an orchestra conductor. He, or she, is always listening for beauty. She can't see it until it is already happening, and even then she goes by ear. She hears the perfect pitch, she recognizes the familiar tune or instrument and points to it. She acknowledges and pulls it forward so that it is amplified and suddenly the whole audience can hear and appreciate it.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">That is the definition, I think, of our call, our invitation: To anticipate the beauty of God and acknowledge it when we recognize it. And then to experience it, enjoy it and appreciate it with others. </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
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</div><div style="text-align: left;">I always forget - every year - that advent wrecks me. </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">When the kids were little I would sit and stare at the candlelight year after year, with no words left at the end of my days except: <i>I am so, so tired</i>. Those syllables would trickle down my cheeks and I would confess my failures - real or imagined - one after another. And I would love Mary's story. I would find comfort, time and again, in her trembling acquiescence: <i>I don't know why me and I know that I can't, but I will do this magnificent job of raising such precious people. </i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">Three years ago, the seasons shifted. I sat and my belly hurt and I was terrified and all I could offer was another frightened and not-at-all-brave yes. I had - after all - fought over it long and hard - but there it was. I gave it back. It meant everything to me. It was my heart. Knowing it was going to be broken once more. And it has been. </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">Last year I walked the forest trails <a href="http://kindbirds.blogspot.com/2010/12/thaw.html">and I let go</a>. I knelt in frozen dirt and wept and opened my hands and <a href="http://kindbirds.blogspot.com/2010/12/hope-and-fears-of-all-years-looking.html">relinquished</a>. I picked up trust. And she was true.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">This December, here I am <a href="http://kindbirds.blogspot.com/2011/12/ache-of-wait.html">again</a>. The season is about preparation and anticipation. It is a nightly turning to listen and grow still. It is a choice for light to overcome darkness and to do that it must burn through. Again and again I anticipate coziness and, instead, I am handed heat.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">My recovery is going well. Thank God. I've even been able to go for walks and that is such a gift of perspective to me. In other ways, though, we are hard pressed - we will either break or be broken (in the right ways.) In ways financial, healing, provision, government changes - all are things we are waiting for - it's hard to summarize - but we know God is present, we know He's involved.<br />
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But I am also battle weary in the midst of all that. And I hear an invitation to rest. To rest from a place of thirst. To wait from a place of longing. To be at peace in a barrel of confusion. And, really, again, to trust. </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">I think about how every single one who found the stable had come a great distance. Even the baby. We follow vague signs, we listen to incomprehensible choruses, we obey untimely laws, we hobble in broken and disbelieving and there we find our hope.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">And we find fellow wanderers. We aren't the only ones. And all we can do together is kneel. We can take in the sight and beauty and quiet and long for a day when there is no more darkness, no more grieving, no more pain and no more hurt. </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">In the meantime we worship a baby, who became a man, who unleashed our thirst for a world He foretold. And in the glimpses of it we are called to rest. To be at peace. </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
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</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">Another morning and I wake with thirst </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">for the goodness I do not have. I walk</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">out to the pond and all the way God has</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">given us such beautiful lessons. Oh Lord,</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">I was never a quick scholar but sulked</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">and hunched over my books past the</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">hour and the bell; grant me, in your</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">mercy, a little more time. Love for the</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">earth and love for you are having such a </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">long conversation in my heart. Who</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">knows what will finally happen or</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">where I will be sent, yet already I have</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">given a great many things away, expect-</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">ing to be told to pack nothing, except the</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">prayers which, with this thirst, I am</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;">slowly learning. </div><br />
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My friend Shelly <a href="http://redemptionsbeauty.wordpress.com/2011/12/05/when-waiting-is-a-verb/">wrote an amazing blog</a> post recently and made the statement:<br />
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We, like many others, are observing Advent right now. We have been doing a series of readings as a family on Jesus. Twenty four readings of stories about things he did and said in the Gospels. Each evening one child reads (or I did last night) and then we discuss what it is in each of them that he has given to us. Our talks have been rich - meaningful and moving. But they also seem to create a deep ache.<br />
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My daughter voiced it so well last night. <i>"That kind of hurts my feelings,"</i> she said about something Jesus had said. <i>"He really confuses me. Sometimes he seems so kind and then sometimes he seems so... not." </i><br />
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I have to be honest. There was a definite pause and quiet as we each inwardly nodded and tried to figure out what to say next.<br />
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I'm aching right now. In fact more than aching, I feel pretty close to breaking. I'm not reading a lot of blogs right now, but a couple of my friend's words on waiting caught my attention today because in some ways that feels like all I am doing. I feel like I am caught in a never-ending season of waiting. For rescue. For relief. For answers and breakthroughs, and help , and rest. Can you relate?<br />
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And in the waiting I feel like I am dying. Whole parts of my heart and hope are diminishing just in the fight to hold on. At times I say to God: <i>"You know, by the time you come through my heart is going to be so broken it may almost be too shattered to celebrate the breakthroughs."</i><br />
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I hear Jesus say to his disciples: Friends, with trust you can rest in a storm. To Martha: Sit still and be with me. To a grieving father: Young man if you believe, I can heal your child with just my words. To a despondent woman: I see your tears and felt you reach out. To a little girl: Rise, breathe and eat.<br />
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Each of them was waiting. Each of them was in a tension that caused more pain than we can read in the succinct words of the Gospel writers. They were human just like us and they were caught in a horrible tension between promises foretold and the fulfillment being waited for.<br />
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I ache for one friend whose baby is having constant seizures while her other girls need her, too. For another friend whose health has continued to break her heart and for who just breathing is an effort. For another friend who is about to end a chapter that was never supposed to close. For another who is hoping for good news at work. For my family fighting and fighting to hold on while doing what we feel so grateful to do, but it's come at a cost higher than I know if I can pay.<br />
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There is no time like Advent (looking towards our ideals of Christmas and then back to the reality of our homes) to surface our awkward, aching longings and forcing them up to gasp and breathe in the presence of someone who promises hope, who promises Emmanuel, to be with us... as we still strain and struggle to see through the haze of everyday hurts and life.<br />
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My friend Shelly wrote on:<br />
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<i><b>Prepare</b> – Respond to God and His promises, engage in conversation and excavate the purpose in waiting.</i><br />
<i><b>Repent</b> – If Christ returned today, what would I do to make things right?</i><br />
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My other friend Shannon <a href="http://wordgirltn.blogspot.com/2011/12/grace.html">said it this way</a>:<br />
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And there is that tension again. Waiting with grace. Waiting with hands splayed, while dreams and hopes and tears are slipping through. And waiting with expectation. With preparation. Like it matters.<br />
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I've been making a lot of choices to live from my heart and not my head recently. And, quite frankly, it hurts. I admit that there is a temptation to wait passively. To let go of promises. To conceptualize and analyze it and distance myself from the feelings in it. Or to let my eyes flitter too long on the stable and manure, and not on the wonder in the shepherds' eyes.<br />
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But I heard Shelley's call. To ask again: What is Your purpose in my waiting? To ask: Please, help me see the treasures of holding on? To say: Yes, stir expectation where I don't even want any more.<br />
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At almost 40 years old I’ve been learning a big lesson: Say no to what doesn’t feel right (even if you can’t explain why yet) and fight for what does (even when it scares you to death.)It's freedom. And also trust. It’s living in a wide open field where anything can be built and new things, never before discovered, will be seen.<br />
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Choosing not to live that way? Makes you miserable. And everyone else around you frustrated, too. That kind of living quickly disintegrates into a messy confusion of manipulation, control and blame.<br />
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That is not freedom. And it fosters mistrust.<br />
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I’ve decided my forties are going to be about shamelessly saying no, so I can say yes. This decade is going to be about freedom.<br />
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This last four weeks I’ve practiced. I’ve said no to a body part, to facebook, to uncomfortable obligations, to expectations and to living off a script that wasn’t mine. Next month? Who can say?<br />
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When I talk to God about this I keep hearing Him whisper to me: I died for your freedom. Go enjoy it!<br />
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</div><div style="text-align: center;">~ Henry Ward Beecher</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">For her attitude & sweetness to help me out right now. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">For watching my kids' hearts genuinely get touched by history - we've cried a couple times together this week reading some really beautiful books, that introduce some very awful realities. </div><br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">For the leaf bouquets my son keeps bringing me since he knows how sad I am not to be out walking in the forest right now. </div><br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">And for the way he keeps putting them all over our house for me to see. </div><br />
<div style="text-align: center;">For friends who went shopping for clothes that fit my kids (who both seemed to have a growth spurt right after my surgery.) </div><div style="text-align: center;">For the fun my kids had on Halloween. It was contagious. </div><div style="text-align: center;">For good books to read these days. </div><div style="text-align: center;">For new jammies for the kids. </div><div style="text-align: center;">For birthday secrets and surprises... and help pulling them off. </div><div style="text-align: center;">For nighttime dreams that bring wisdom. </div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
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<div style="text-align: center;">I'm joining <a href="http://rebekahgough.blogspot.com/2011/11/capturing-our-blessings-1.html">Rebekah at 'a bit of sunshine'</a> this month capturing my blessings I am thankful for. </div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-49858837871923312592011-10-27T22:09:00.000-07:002011-10-27T22:09:58.046-07:00Six Weeks<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-lJ3XKK6XpCA/Tqow4MAMfoI/AAAAAAAABNM/s7TqBtzPvz4/s1600/slippers+crop.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="302" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-lJ3XKK6XpCA/Tqow4MAMfoI/AAAAAAAABNM/s7TqBtzPvz4/s400/slippers+crop.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br />
I just found out today that I have six more weeks of laying really low to go.<br />
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Or in my least favourite, most ambiguous way of them saying it to me: I'm supposed to take it very easy.<br />
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But I did get some more concrete directives and it involves no more walking for the next week. Then a teeny bit of only walking as far as up my block for awhile. And then around week six or eight I can begin to think about my runs. It would be so easy for me to fight this and feel frustrated with what I can't do (if only just internally) but I decided I'm not going to - I'm going to embrace it.<br />
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So what would you do with six weeks in your PJs and slippers?<br />
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I clearly have been handed an opportunity to take good care of my health and pour into my kids without any heavy lifting - literally and figuratively. I want to take full advantage of this opportunity.<br />
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One of the things I have learned about myself, however, is I need routine - a system to create in and a process for enjoyment (as my friend calls it.) I had been feeling really overwhelmed, though, about how to structure this in a beautiful (non-guilt inducing) way. I like goals and I need touch points. (Besides just my slippers that are, admittedly, soft to the touch.) But how to do that when I'm really not allowed to <i>do</i>?<br />
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Through a beautiful surprise this week I feel like I got some help. Have you seen <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Celtic-Daily-Prayer-Northumbria-Community/dp/0060013249/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1319777598&sr=8-1">this book</a>? The kids and I have already begun saying nightly <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compline">compline</a> together and it has been exactly what we needed to bring a new sort of order and peace to our day. I am slowly adopting the readings through out my own hours and it is creating just the rhythm I needed.<br />
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Here is what I am doing:<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-9E4KZFRgjXg/TqoxCpdvDoI/AAAAAAAABNU/dHKM8OOKxjU/s1600/six+weeks+crop.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-9E4KZFRgjXg/TqoxCpdvDoI/AAAAAAAABNU/dHKM8OOKxjU/s640/six+weeks+crop.jpg" width="520" /></a></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-84796632195179635112011-10-27T09:17:00.000-07:002011-10-27T09:19:57.717-07:00Thirty Things I Am Loving Right Now<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-O7oP_0iiMMc/Tqc_iN_19iI/AAAAAAAABM0/J-eeScrU25g/s1600/goofs%2521.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-O7oP_0iiMMc/Tqc_iN_19iI/AAAAAAAABM0/J-eeScrU25g/s400/goofs%2521.JPG" width="400" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-VSrKfd6iJxI/Tqc_d-e5KyI/AAAAAAAABMs/q9HBbhEgWlI/s1600/silly+boy.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-VSrKfd6iJxI/Tqc_d-e5KyI/AAAAAAAABMs/q9HBbhEgWlI/s400/silly+boy.JPG" width="400" /></a></div><ol><li>big thick caramel apples</li>
<li>pretty paint-dipped-looking gourds</li>
<li>all the bright, wet, yellow leaves on really tall trees</li>
<li>flaming red bushes</li>
<li>miniature cute pumpkins</li>
<li>star wars movie nights</li>
<li>hot apple cider</li>
<li>honey crisp apples</li>
<li>my new red scarf and my fuzzy pink fleece blanket</li>
<li>my new pjs</li>
<li>butternut squash curry & jasmine rice</li>
<li>my soft cream slippers</li>
<li>lime-cilantro salad dressing</li>
<li>hard rain storms in the middle of the night</li>
<li>coyotes waking us up howling in the back field</li>
<li>my puppy (who is going through adolescence and acting like a punk) </li>
<li>bubbling cinnamon, cloves and oranges on my stove & cinnamon scented pine-cones by the front door</li>
<li>my friend Erinn's spicy sausage soup - oh my word, Erinn! Love. I need a recipe on that one! </li>
<li>books</li>
<li>my daughter's knitting</li>
<li>the orange & red bush I can see out the window from my elliptical</li>
<li>the hot pink sunset last week that lit up the sky</li>
<li>my son's sense of humour</li>
<li>coziness & warm beds</li>
<li>our fireplace (even if it is fake)</li>
<li>decaf earl grey tea and rice milk</li>
<li>instagram (it's like a smaller, less overwhelming facebook)</li>
<li>my kids - they're really fun</li>
<li>that my husband shaved his beard : ) </li>
<li>sunny October days</li>
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<div style="text-align: center;">Oh and <a href="http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/03/caring-for-your-introvert/2696/">this article. </a>Both my daughter and I are introverts and no one ever thinks we are. It made me laugh!</div></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-66511011807810389222011-10-26T09:39:00.000-07:002011-10-26T09:39:27.187-07:00Only Begun<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">The morning before my recent surgery my mom sent me this poem (below.) That surgery was the first time I spent any (planned) length of time in the hospital since <a href="http://kindbirds.blogspot.com/2011/04/month-for-miracles.html">my son's birth</a> so it stirred up some things in our home. I was trying to help walk one of my kids through their anxiety about it and also sort through my own emotions about it all... let alone just face the logistics of all the details of having surgery. Besides that there are also some unrelated situations my family is facing that are difficult. It's a lot going on right now. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">As I've been sorting through all of this I also recently <a href="http://heathcotesafari.blogspot.com/2011/10/grateful.html">read this</a> by my friend Miranda. She said a lot of things I've been ruminating on really well: </div><blockquote class="tr_bq">"One of the hardest things for me to be faced with, over the past couple of years of our journey, has been how transactional is my view of blessing. Without stopping to think about it, I somehow adopted the idea that If I do *this*, God will do *this*. I don't think I would ever have formulated it in those words, but circumstances - great revealer of character that they are - showed this to be true." </blockquote><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">I've been wondering what would be different in my life if I wholeheartedly lived what I believed - that love & beauty & grace & good gifts are not earned or lost based on anything I do or don't do; anything I am or am not. Not based on my emotions, my failures, my lack. Not based on my good choices, my bad choices, <i>my</i> anything. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">This Autumn has been so hard & so beautiful - and I keep coming back to these lines from the poem below:</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">When we have exhausted our store of endurance,</span></i></div><div style="text-align: center;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">When our strength has failed ere the day is half done,</span></i></div><div style="text-align: center;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">When we reach the end of our hoarded resources</span></i></div><div style="text-align: center;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Our Father's full giving is only begun.</span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> </span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">It's impossible to read those words for me without feeling so much hope. And I keep wondering how I can live with more of my life more saturated with that reality.</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
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</div><div style="text-align: center;">He giveth more grace as our burdens grow greater, </div><div style="text-align: center;">He sendeth more strength as our labors increase;</div><div style="text-align: center;">To added afflictions He addeth His mercy,</div><div style="text-align: center;">To multiplied trials He multiplies peace.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">When we have exhausted our store of endurance,</div><div style="text-align: center;">When our strength has failed ere the day is half done,</div><div style="text-align: center;">When we reach the end of our hoarded resources</div><div style="text-align: center;">Our Father's full giving is only begun.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">Fear not that thy need shall exceed His provision,</div><div style="text-align: center;">Our God ever yearns His resources to share;</div><div style="text-align: center;">Lean hard on the arm everlasting, availing;</div><div style="text-align: center;">The Father both thee and thy load will upbear.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">His love has no limits, His grace has no measure,</div><div style="text-align: center;">His power no boundary known unto men;</div><div style="text-align: center;">For out of His infinite riches in Jesus</div><div style="text-align: center;">He giveth, and giveth, and giveth again.</div><br />
<div style="text-align: center;"><i>He Giveth More Grace </i></div><div style="text-align: center;"><i>by Annie J. Flint </i></div><br />
<div style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.preceptaustin.org/annie_johnson_flint's_biography.htm">Annie Johnson Flint</a> suffered with arthritis for 40 years - her story is quite something. </div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-85827914623633984132011-10-25T12:06:00.000-07:002011-10-25T12:06:46.061-07:00A Healing Season<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-sfi6ayoRmvA/TqcEsH7ovEI/AAAAAAAABLs/EGl9J0rTNnc/s1600/extravagent+colour.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b><img border="0" height="640" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-sfi6ayoRmvA/TqcEsH7ovEI/AAAAAAAABLs/EGl9J0rTNnc/s640/extravagent+colour.JPG" width="640" /></b></span></a></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>O God, our help in ages past, </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>our hope for years to come, </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>our shelter from the stormy blast, </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>and our eternal home.</b></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-vzP5A9EB4-U/TqcGTE3PuNI/AAAAAAAABMU/kIZT0RNnkdY/s1600/Diablo+Lake3.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b><img border="0" height="640" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-vzP5A9EB4-U/TqcGTE3PuNI/AAAAAAAABMU/kIZT0RNnkdY/s640/Diablo+Lake3.jpg" width="480" /></b></span></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>Under the shadow of thy throne, </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>still may we dwell secure; </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>sufficient is thine arm alone, </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>and our defense is sure.</b></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-PtkHyZ7XlR4/TqcEVHB19wI/AAAAAAAABLM/ypvZ6h0Pg0k/s1600/real+red.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b><img border="0" height="640" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-PtkHyZ7XlR4/TqcEVHB19wI/AAAAAAAABLM/ypvZ6h0Pg0k/s640/real+red.JPG" width="640" /></b></span></a></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>Before the hills in order stood, </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>or earth received her frame, </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>from everlasting, thou art God, </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>to endless years the same.</b></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; 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</b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>short as the watch that ends the night, </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>before the rising sun.</b></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-RQPwAAjIcLA/TqcElAWXZ1I/AAAAAAAABLk/AJG9ourKmMY/s1600/leaf+dancing.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b><img border="0" height="640" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-RQPwAAjIcLA/TqcElAWXZ1I/AAAAAAAABLk/AJG9ourKmMY/s640/leaf+dancing.JPG" width="640" /></b></span></a></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>Time, like an ever rolling stream, </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>bears all who breathe away; </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>they fly forgotten, as a dream </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>dies at the opening day.</b></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-qMD79XXGGBI/TqcE2nXVb5I/AAAAAAAABL8/g_u74WWOv-U/s1600/black+lace+in+a+yellow+dress.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b><img border="0" height="640" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-qMD79XXGGBI/TqcE2nXVb5I/AAAAAAAABL8/g_u74WWOv-U/s640/black+lace+in+a+yellow+dress.JPG" width="640" /></b></span></a></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>O God, our help in ages past, </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>our hope for years to come; </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>be thou our guide while life shall last, </b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>and our eternal home.</b></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-JFGzL3TVSsA/TqcE8DWhdfI/AAAAAAAABME/1sFHMa863XQ/s1600/a+real+treasure+hunt.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b><img border="0" height="640" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-JFGzL3TVSsA/TqcE8DWhdfI/AAAAAAAABME/1sFHMa863XQ/s640/a+real+treasure+hunt.JPG" width="640" /></b></span></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>Hymn by Isaac Watts, 1674-1748 </b></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; 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</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-6322143694291721022011-10-21T15:47:00.000-07:002011-10-21T15:47:24.673-07:00A Simple Update<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-UxCixmN74AY/TqHyK9HUUWI/AAAAAAAABKU/cqTbffuWof8/s1600/quote+3.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-UxCixmN74AY/TqHyK9HUUWI/AAAAAAAABKU/cqTbffuWof8/s400/quote+3.JPG" width="400" /></a></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div style="text-align: center;">I had to have surgery. As my friend says: I had my baby box removed. Along with a few other unnecessary things like scar tissue and cysts and such. And I am thankful it's over. *</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">It's been a week and a half now and almost every woman I asked for advice before the surgery said to <i>go slow</i>. Said you're going to feel like not going slow. Go slow anyways. And they all gave me dire descriptions as to why. </div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">(*Email me if you want details because I was super thankful for the ladies who were able to give me details ahead of time and I'd be happy to return the favour if you are debating a similar situation. )</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-13190937687797458672011-09-29T09:41:00.000-07:002011-09-29T09:45:40.600-07:00when all else has failed<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-fwsblNyxCyc/ToScfK9twcI/AAAAAAAABIo/b2ise8IVceI/s1600/together.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-fwsblNyxCyc/ToScfK9twcI/AAAAAAAABIo/b2ise8IVceI/s400/together.JPG" width="400" /></a></div><br />
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It may be partly that I just finished my 38th year.<br />
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I try to think of him sitting there waiting for thirty-eight years and getting more and more disheartened. I imagine disappointment sinking in deeper and deeper and becoming a part of who is is, how he views the world, maybe even shaping the wrinkles on his face and the lines of his body.<br />
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I try to imagine living that way, watching others get there first - watching them erupting in joy - and him looking around wondering why he could never get it right. Did he start to blame? Ask 'why me'? Pull back and isolate himself against a wall and just watch? Did he stop trying? Let go of hope? Did he get hard? <br />
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I often wonder where were his friends? Why did no one set up and organize a system!? I visualize a church group relay to move him extra fast; a team of strong volunteer guys hustling him towards the water. A sign-up rota for youth group spotters to stay right by the edge and then let out a shout when they saw what they were all waiting for.<br />
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I mean, imagine... If we had that kind of guarantee of healing these days it would be mayhem. We'd all be dragging our family members and friends to that place and camping out and rolling out our sleeping bags.<br />
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Was he hopeless? Was he bitter? Was he mad?<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>These four sentences stand out to me:</b></span><br />
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<b>When Jesus saw him...</b><br />
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Thirty-eight years. He was seen. He was not unnoticed. In fact, the whole system got turned on its head for him. He didn't have to get into the healing water, the healing came to him. <br />
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It means so much to me that eventually Jesus himself walked up to him and saw him.<br />
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<b>Do you want to become well?</b><br />
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For a long time this question offended me. What a stupid question! He was paralyzed watching his dreams go unrealized. What did Jesus mean did he want to get better?! No, I think I'd rather hang out here by this little jacuzzi I can never get in and stay lame? Areyoukiddingme?<br />
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But slowly I realized the value that statement gives away. I remember the first time someone asked me: What do you want? My head spun with all the right answers. All the things I should say and thought were right to say - and they kept, instead, coming back to my heart, my preferences, my desires. What did I want?<br />
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It was a revelation to me that that mattered. <br />
I love that Jesus asked that, too. <br />
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<b>I have no one to help me...</b><br />
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His answer is a dejected heart-breaker. He didn't have a team. He didn't have friends. There was no squadron of strong buddies like that guy that got lifted down through the roof. He may not even have had family. <br />
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And what blows my mind in this story is that the healing he was offered wasn't just for his body to be made well. It was that he was offered someone. <br />
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Jesus knew he felt like he had no one. So Jesus came himself. <br />
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He healed him by being present. By noticing him. By seeing his sorrow and hurt and pain and asking him about his heart. By not assuming, presuming or making a big deal about himself. (He didn't even know who Jesus was after he was healed.) Jesus turned his attention to a man who had felt lonely and unseen, too slow and too broken, for thirty-eight years.<br />
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But it gets better. <br />
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And this is actually the sentence that makes me cry:<br />
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<b>After this, Jesus found him again...</b><br />
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When someone is found it means they were being looked for. It involves effort and implies that they matter. He mattered. His heart mattered. And it was not just a one-off thing.<br />
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<i>Isn't that beautiful? </i><br />
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Our miracle isn't what happens in our bodies. <br />
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It's that he comes to us -<a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=john%205:1%20-%2014&version=AMP"> again and again</a>.<br />
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<div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">{</span><a href="http://kindbirds.blogspot.com/2011/07/39.html" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-color: initial; border-color: initial; border-color: initial; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-style: initial; border-style: initial; border-style: initial; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #21bb55; text-decoration: none;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">39/365</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;"> is about this being the last year of my fourth decade. </span></div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">I am watching for God in my day-to-day life & I am writing about the gifts He gives me in this season. </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">I am listening for His daily, beautiful presence in my years.... all 39 of them and counting.</span> </span></div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">This last two months I have been thinking about the fact that we are seen and we are pursued. Our hearts matter to Jesus.</span></div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">Please feel free to join me. }</span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-2189973776444693652011-09-26T15:35:00.000-07:002011-09-26T15:35:34.466-07:00an evening before the rains hit<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-7r1O893-fLo/Tnp4Z-ky_UI/AAAAAAAABD8/YgC0A8a8oJU/s1600/sept+bouquet.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-7r1O893-fLo/Tnp4Z-ky_UI/AAAAAAAABD8/YgC0A8a8oJU/s640/sept+bouquet.JPG" width="640" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">~ for an autumn bouquet ~</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><br />
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<div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">~ for a quilt-picnic in a beautiful old park with apricot jam, rosemary bread, blood-orange soda; and basil and tomatoes from our yard - just the two of us</div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">~ for getting to explore an old neighbourhood in Seattle in the sun, hand-in-hand, peeking in yards and onto back verandas; seeing stately old homes and being amazed by the colours turning on the trees - all lined up like gentlemen in a row</div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">~ for watching the WU crews row on lake union - streaking colours rippling by</div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">~ for tiptoeing into a secret green alcove, right on the water, and getting to see the amazing houseboats in all their colourful fun & fancy - up close</div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">~ for sitting at gasworks park watching the sunset reflect off the Seattle skyline & seeing the harvest moon rise - on the opposite side of the lake</div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">~ for the guys at <a href="http://www.flyingapron.com/">the flying apron</a> in Seattle giving my husband and I an impromptu bag of (chocolatey vegan, gf) goodies - for free - just because we came in at closing time</div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">I am listening for His daily, beautiful presence in my years.... all 39 of them and counting.</span> </span></div><div style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">This week I have been thinking about how powerful gratitude is to keep perspective & keep me going. </span></div><div style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">Please feel free to join me. }</span></div></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-14056191719421393632011-09-23T09:41:00.000-07:002011-09-23T09:41:03.680-07:00a timeline of true love<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-bm2A9ALVdng/TnyzOGgDjPI/AAAAAAAABEE/lV_uBDECVVg/s1600/priorities+being+clarified.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-bm2A9ALVdng/TnyzOGgDjPI/AAAAAAAABEE/lV_uBDECVVg/s640/priorities+being+clarified.JPG" width="640" /></a></div><br />
Bear with me while I tell you a story - it's the last story I expected to think about this week, but this is what happened:<br />
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<b>Monday a week ago:</b> I had a very difficult, but significant day. A lot of tears & pain. It hurt and was not a fun one.<br />
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<b>Tuesday</b>: As I was journaling about the day before I prayed and asked God for a little surprise. Just something that would be a tangible reminder of his love for me. Of how He loved me. Little did I know...<br />
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<b>Wednesday:</b> That afternoon I felt a prompting to make a phone call (we had just recently started looking for a dog for our family) and I talked to a breeder who was selling mini Australian labradoodles... this was the dream dog. The perfect one for our daughter's allergies, but one we knew we could never, ever afford. Due to a personal crisis the seller had just marked down the dogs she was raising to one fifth of the price. We went to see them trying to not get our hopes up; we were inevitably besotted and we came home with a very cuddly, very cute surprise! (Thanks to the kids pitching in their savings and my parents playing early Santa.)<br />
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<b>Thursday:</b> We all fell head over heals in love. Me most unexpectedly. My husband said if he had known I would have this much fun & love her this much, he would've bought us a puppy years ago. But with the kids' ages & stages in life - the timing was perfect.<br />
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<b>Friday:</b> The dog had been dry-heaving at night since we brought her home and we kept thinking it was fear from leaving her litter. But it was only sporadic and we all were bonding with her and she was clearly loving our home. The kids were on cloud nine. When I woke up that day though, I felt a persistent urgency to take her into the vet. We found out her vaccinations were late (the breeder was in crisis), she needed a thorough exam and - surprising us - we were offered a promotional of a month of free pet insurance. Both my son and a little inner voice kept pursuing me to sign up for it right away, so I did.<br />
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<b>Saturday & Sunday: </b> We were supposed to leave on Friday for a week-long family vacation. We had postponed it after getting the pup to have time to get ready. We haven't been away alone just as the four of us in a couple years. But the place we had been going to stay didn't want a dog there. Understandably - and we knew there was that risk when we got her. The hard thing, though, was we had been offered the place to stay for free and now we didn't have a way to take the kids somewhere else. There was a lot of acceptance (after all we did have a puppy!), but still real disappointment.<br />
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<b>Monday:</b> The puppy was vomiting blood & clearly in distress, we went back to the vet had some scary tests done - she checked out okay and we came home with a lot of medicine for a painful puppy tummy.<br />
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<b>Tuesday:</b> She seemed much, much better. We all took a deep breath and were grateful that was over!<br />
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<b>Wednesday:</b> Something was not right. Both my husband and I were worried we had bought a sick puppy. It was turning into a rough week with real confusion and disappointment.<br />
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<b>Thursday:</b> Our puppy looked like she was having convulsions and was in a great deal of pain. We took her in, she was X-rayed and found out she had a large impassable rock in her stomach. She had immediate surgery and the vet said she probably wouldn't have lived through the day without it.<br />
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As we drove home from the vet - with plenty of tears and worry -<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"> one of my kids expressed how it seemed like with every good thing that happened you had to protect your heart from it turning into a sad thing. Our little gift was sick. Our vacation had to be cancelled. What had we done wrong? Didn't God care about that?</span> Why would he give us gift that could die? A gift that hurt?</b><br />
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It suddenly dawned on me that my child was voicing my exact thoughts I had been feeling the Monday before. The day I asked God for a reassuring surprise from him. But our surprise was now <i>in surgery</i>. It got quiet in the car as I paused to think - I wasn't about to address these deep questions in my child with pat answers. I needed answers, too. And I knew that helping my child - and my self - remember that protecting out hearts from disappointments is a bad road to start down, was very crucial.<br />
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My husband spoke up and pointed something out - if we had left on vacation as planned we wouldn't have been given pet insurance. If we had left on Saturday & then realized the puppy was in so much pain, we would've had to possibly spend a couple thousand dollars to save her life or lose her - all while away from home.<br />
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What we saw as disappointment may have been a God's way of saving our little gift's life. And in a big litter, puppies who are a bit slower and in pain don't really get noticed as quickly. Maybe her coming to our house with a big rock in her belly causing her this hurt, was actually the perfect timing for us to take care of her and help her get to a doctor to save her life. (This turned into a short conversation about how much God <i>loves</i> puppies, too. On purpose!)<br />
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Self-protection, we tried to explain, is the opposite of trust. It is, even more significantly, the opposite of love. It's extremely tempting - but it has huge consequences. Whether it's in marriage, with your siblings, with your friends - life's disappointments and phone calls with bad news do stab our hearts and do hurt us.<br />
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But sometimes we get the privilege of seeing a bigger timeline and realize that what we perceive as painful - is actually a means to saving our lives. Our hearts. And sometimes we get reminded that we are never in control to begin with. We are at the mercy - thank God - of a very kind God. One who loves puppies <i>and</i> us - but one who also wants our attention and wants to protect us in ways we don't always want to submit to. Or like. Or agree with.<br />
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But that's still His heart.<br />
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It may sound silly when talking about a little apricot puppy, but I so love how C. S. Lewis addresses it:<br />
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<div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;">“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket- safe, dark, motionless, airless--it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.”</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
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<div style="text-align: center;">And that was my surprise this week - a reminder that lavishly, besottedly and without any self-protection is <i>exactly</i> how God loves me. </div><div style="text-align: auto;"><br />
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<div style="text-align: center;">{Emma is still at the vet hospital - but we are hoping to bring her home this weekend.}</div><br />
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<div style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">{</span><a href="http://kindbirds.blogspot.com/2011/07/39.html" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-color: initial; border-color: initial; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-style: initial; border-style: initial; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #21bb55; text-decoration: none;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">39/365</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;"> is about this being the last year of my fourth decade. </span></div><div style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">I am watching for God in my day-to-day life & I am writing about the gifts He gives me in this season. </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">I am listening for His daily, beautiful presence in my years.... all 39 of them and counting.</span> </span></div><div style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">This week I have been thinking about how giving unconditional love is tied to trust. And knowing how lavishly we are loved first. </span></div><div style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">Please feel free to join me. }</span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-40922909847956623022011-09-21T16:33:00.000-07:002011-09-21T18:01:54.242-07:00surpriseEvery year I forget that the big transition back to school means a new normal will once again have to be created at our house. This year we had extra transition that only added to - and sped up - that process.<br />
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Besides all kinds of health craziness in three out of four of us, we had to cancel a long anticipated vacation & some special plans, too. And on top of that we also got a new, very little family member. The end result was just a whole lot of change and upheaval leaving us all needing some intentional re-orientating. I haven't run in nine days and my inner world feels all topsy-turvy and tired.<br />
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Surprisingly the puppy has helped the most with all that. She's easy, sweet and has already stolen our hearts entirely. We knew we were ready to start looking for a pup - but we thought it would take a couple months, not three days!<br />
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Turned out her timing was perfect. She's brought so much peace and laughter to our home. She makes our family feel all complete and cozy.<br />
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I'm getting made fun of a lot, too. I of the "only if she's crate trained and she can never get on the couch or in your beds" etc. etc. preaching... am now eating (happy) humble pie.<br />
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(She sleeps with me every night.) (On my bed.)<br />
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(I know!)<br />
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<div style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">{</span><a href="http://kindbirds.blogspot.com/2011/07/39.html" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-color: initial; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-style: initial; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #21bb55; text-decoration: none;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">39/365</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;"> is about this being the last year of my fourth decade. </span></div><div style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">I am watching for God in my day-to-day life & I am writing about the gifts He gives me in this season. </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">I am listening for His daily, beautiful presence in my years.... all 39 of them and counting.</span> </span></div><div style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">This week I have been thinking about the surprises of laughter & unconditional love - expressed in a little apricot puppy. </span></div><div style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">Please feel free to join me. }</span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-81910674692301412582011-09-13T14:52:00.000-07:002011-09-21T16:41:06.142-07:00moments of ripened beauty<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-G1TnAGLL97I/Tm_LRP_TGYI/AAAAAAAABCI/QfA3_uBrXjM/s1600/searching+out+a+swing+site.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-G1TnAGLL97I/Tm_LRP_TGYI/AAAAAAAABCI/QfA3_uBrXjM/s640/searching+out+a+swing+site.JPG" width="640" /></a> </div><br />
Seven years ago when we moved into our home we are in now, we had to let go of a house our daughter liked much better. The reason why? It had a swing in the yard. And the house we ended up purchasing didn't have a swing and there wasn't really any good place to hang one.<br />
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I still bought a swing at Ikea in hope & with some other futile plans I was trying for. But it has sat in a box in our garage for years now gathering dust. Sat in there for so long, in fact, that even my daughter-of-the-steel-trap-memory forgot it was there.<br />
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And as if to grant me the perfect illustration of what God has been speaking to me, we hung that swing this weekend. In a tree that we planted as a tiny sapling in the back yard about four years ago. A tree given to us by a neighbour getting ready to throw it out. It was even sitting on her curb for the trash man when she off-handedly asked if we'd like to plant it?<br />
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We warned the kids over and over that it may never get big enough or strong enough to climb in, or play on, or hang a real swing from... but they just didn't believe us. They have watched that willow grow every year.<br />
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I am learning about patience. I am finding that spots of beauty like this give me hope for the things I am still praying for. Longing for. The things I am watching grow and wondering if they will ever be strong enough to hold the weight of all the hopes and desires that eventually I hope to hang on them.<br />
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I read this recently:<br />
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<div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">" A person in difficulty can trust because of a belief that something else is possible. To trust is to allow for hope. ... Which also means that to trust is not always to demand specifics of what will transpire. </span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">God wants us to know life - but what that actually means is open-ended. God wants us to experience healing, but how can we know precisely what healing will always look like? God wants to bring us to a new place of faithfulness, but how and through what means? We don't have to decide everything or know everything or even glimpse much at all; if we try too hard to figure it all out we lose a trusting spirit. </span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">A person of faith learns to trust so much that the outcome of the trust is given into the hands of the One in whom the trust is placed. We let God work out some details that we feel tempted to know or control but ultimately cannot. </span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">...We are part of a very impatient culture, however. We want things and we want them quickly. And we feel that we should be able to take away the pains, heal the wounds, fill the holes, and create great experiences of great meaningfulness - now. </span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">... But a view of time as kairos [a New testament Greek word that has to do with opportunity, with moments that seem ripe for their intended purpose] helps us to be patient in believing."</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">~ Henri Nouwen; Turn My Mourning Into Dancing - chapter three</span></div><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">I am listening for His daily, beautiful presence in my years.... all 39 of them and counting.</span> </span></div><div style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">This week I have been thinking about the gifts brought through patience. </span></div><div style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">Please feel free to join me. }</span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-11239054348026333452011-09-08T11:42:00.000-07:002011-09-08T11:42:37.202-07:00summer 2011<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-gazwT_0bLCA/TmgtYAEXBhI/AAAAAAAAA_8/HWh1fbNAsXw/s1600/new+red+shoes.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-gazwT_0bLCA/TmgtYAEXBhI/AAAAAAAAA_8/HWh1fbNAsXw/s400/new+red+shoes.JPG" width="400" /></a></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;">{new red shoes }</span></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><br />
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<div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;"><b>I have recently:</b></span></div><br />
- had three lumps found in my breast; had two mammograms and an ultrasound and found out they were benign (after finding my tears about it all in a dressing room meltdown in a very revealing hospital gown while texting a friend)<br />
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- have a daughter going in for an MRI for what looks like migraines - but we need to be sure<br />
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- have a husband seeing a GI specialist due to some severe and long-term abdominal pain<br />
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- am starting back to teaching a 3rd and a 4/5th grader and they seem to want new and fresh challenges (i.e. learning the origin of words - any advice on that study?!)<br />
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- endured a summer of only three days (until now) where the temps were above 70s - this affected me more than I expected<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Ga3eYGiKRbs/TmgtaSE3qcI/AAAAAAAABAE/rnOpxSVPBtw/s1600/a+new+freedom.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Ga3eYGiKRbs/TmgtaSE3qcI/AAAAAAAABAE/rnOpxSVPBtw/s400/a+new+freedom.JPG" width="400" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">{ one of the warm days }</div><br />
- <a href="http://www.amazon.com/School-Essential-Ingredients-Erica-Bauermeister/dp/B003UHUBLI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1315448676&sr=1-1">read</a> <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Joy-Beginners-Erica-Bauermeister/dp/0399157123/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1315448699&sr=1-1">four</a> <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Long-Obedience-Same-Direction-Discipleship/dp/0830822577/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpt_3">books </a>I <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Wedding-Nicholas-Sparks/dp/0446615862/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1315448722&sr=1-1">loved</a> this summer and a few more that made me think... <a href="http://www.amazon.com/People-Pineapple-Place-Anne-Lindbergh/dp/1567924115/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1315448807&sr=1-1">and</a> <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Prisoner-Pineapple-Place-Morrow-Lindbergh/dp/0763621323/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1315448807&sr=1-2">two</a> to the kids we really enjoyed<br />
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- have started some intense new things for me that are hopeful but not so easy<br />
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- seen two kids become accomplished swimmers, new snorklers and burgeoning divers; watched them fall in love with tennis/performing and dancing/independence... and observed an added four inches to their collective height in two weeks<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-RIqFMT3_vI4/TmgtWP9JRGI/AAAAAAAAA_0/vyGZBX-vpA8/s1600/tall+girl.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-RIqFMT3_vI4/TmgtWP9JRGI/AAAAAAAAA_0/vyGZBX-vpA8/s400/tall+girl.JPG" width="400" /></a></div><div style="text-align: center;">{ so tall }</div><br />
- been the most relaxed I ever felt about teaching school and the most aware that if my daughter really does leave home at 16 (as is her plan) (as did her dad, mom and maternal grandmother) than I only have six years left with her<br />
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- run way more than I planned on all summer (last week I almost hit 40 miles including some walked/hiked miles) and am getting (really) excited about crisp autumn running under coloured leaves and running at night past pretty Christmas lights<br />
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- have chosen the colour pink as my theme colour for this new year & have decided I really like the month of September so far<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ftDbc-DjQ2E/TmgtXV2i6zI/AAAAAAAAA_4/jFzznSnpXgQ/s1600/ptential+ccoup.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ftDbc-DjQ2E/TmgtXV2i6zI/AAAAAAAAA_4/jFzznSnpXgQ/s400/ptential+ccoup.JPG" width="400" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">{ a potential coup }</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8185744470283939886.post-42086087267639358752011-09-07T19:18:00.000-07:002011-09-07T19:18:50.309-07:00Teeny Update<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-JsNzTWXsbqY/Tmgk7q803VI/AAAAAAAAA_w/ngiTOj8A9tk/s1600/home+next+to+the+sun.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-JsNzTWXsbqY/Tmgk7q803VI/AAAAAAAAA_w/ngiTOj8A9tk/s640/home+next+to+the+sun.JPG" width="640" /></a></div><div style="text-align: center;">{home}</div><br />
<div style="text-align: center;">...just to say posting will be light, until it's not. : ) </div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">I post regularly on dailymile and I am on instagram (an iPhone app) with a lot of homeschooling and daily life photos. (And I am still reading a lot of your blogs and loving them. )</div><br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-x6iDUD5kKCc/Tmgk7C3X4II/AAAAAAAAA_s/TTiRH1WE2m8/s1600/summer+puppy+feet.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-x6iDUD5kKCc/Tmgk7C3X4II/AAAAAAAAA_s/TTiRH1WE2m8/s640/summer+puppy+feet.JPG" width="640" /></a></div><div style="text-align: center;">{summer coloured puppy feet}</div><br />
<div style="text-align: center;">"One of the large challenges of my relationship with Benj has been integrating working and feeling into one act of dedicated devotion: figuring out how to rise above the relentless daily demands, the need for predictable schedules and structured tasks and meticulous planning and hold on to a sense of boundless possibility and exuberant unpredictability. How could I as a parent be both pragmatic and romantic, realistic and visionary, precise and focused in my attention to his needs and yet able to be "surprised by joy"." ~ Priscilla Gilman; The Anti-Romantic Child</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">(via <a href="http://cluelessbuthopeful.blogspot.com/">clueless but hopeful mama</a>)</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2